美国的新妈妈如何与月嫂相处 How do new mothers in the US get along with their postpartum caregivers?

大多数时候，一个陌生人到家里总会有些不自在，但人与人都是从陌生到熟悉这样的一个过程，所以接下来小编要为大家讲一下美国的新手妈妈如何与月嫂相处。

Most of the time, having a stranger in your home can be a little uncomfortable, but building relationships is a process that goes from stranger to familiar.  Therefore, in this article, we'll discuss how new mothers in the United States can get along with their postpartum caregivers.

如果家庭成员不能好好地应对月嫂，那么，你们自然也不会得到相应的优质的服务。如果家庭连这点都没有想好的话，建议你不要请月嫂了，否则会引来更多的麻烦。

涉外家庭的月嫂刚上户的时候，新妈妈可以向她介绍了家庭人员情况，是否还有别人也会过来照顾月子的情况。这样介绍的目的一是能让月嫂能大概了解家里的情况，免得以后出现什么纰漏；二是让月嫂也能有比较好的印象。介绍完家庭成员以后还可以和月嫂聊聊家庭的生活习惯和注意事项，否则月嫂在不知道情况的情况下很容易和家庭成员产生不必要的矛盾。

所谓疑人不用，用人不疑是有一定的道理的，及时给予肯定和夸赞能让月嫂感觉自己正在被人信任，月嫂的心情也能更快的放松心情来照顾自己和宝宝。特别是旧金山湾区曾经发生过月嫂虐婴事件，旧金山的宝爸宝妈在聘请月嫂的时候会有一定的警惕心理，因此，在选择月嫂时，一定要多了解、多比较，不要只看价格，更要看月嫂的经验和口碑。另外家里要安装监控，并事先告知月嫂。

关于面试的问题，在这里提供一点小技巧，就是找月嫂的时候最好不要找那种能说会道的月嫂，像这样的月嫂一般是属于嘴上能说，但是实际操作的时候就不行了的类型。当然也不排除有能说会道又有实际的操作能力的月嫂，但是这样的必定是少数，而且能说会道的一般都比较强势，你要是对她提出一点意见，她有可能马上就和你翻脸。面试时的言谈举止其实在一定程度上也能反映他们的性格和脾气。

1. Respect the Nanny and Her Work

If family members cannot treat the nanny respectfully, you naturally won't receive high-quality service. If your family hasn't considered this aspect, it's advisable not to hire a nanny, as it could lead to more problems.

When a nanny starts working for an international family, the new mother should introduce the family members and explain whether anyone else will be helping with postpartum care. The purpose of this introduction is twofold: firstly, to allow the nanny to understand the family situation and avoid future misunderstandings; secondly, to create a positive impression. After introducing the family members, you can also discuss family habits and important considerations with the nanny. Otherwise, the nanny might unintentionally cause unnecessary conflicts with family members due to a lack of information.

2. Trust

The saying "Don't hire someone you don't trust, and trust the person you hire" holds some truth. Giving timely affirmation and praise will make the nanny feel trusted, allowing her to relax and better care for you and your baby. Especially considering the past incidents of nannies abusing infants in the San Francisco Bay Area, parents in San Francisco are understandably cautious when hiring nannies. Therefore, when choosing a nanny, it's crucial to do thorough research and comparisons, not just focusing on price, but also considering the nanny's experience and reputation. Additionally, it's recommended to install surveillance cameras and inform the nanny beforehand.

Regarding the interview process, here's a tip: it's best to avoid hiring nannies who are overly talkative. Such nannies are often good at talking but lack practical skills. Of course, there are exceptions—nannies who are both articulate and skilled—but these are rare.  Furthermore, talkative individuals tend to be more assertive, and they might easily become confrontational if you offer any suggestions. A person's demeanor and behavior during the interview can reveal a lot about their personality and temperament.

家庭中的每一个都对月嫂有自己的看法和要求，有时还会意见相左，这样无形中给月嫂增加了很大压力；如果家庭成员在产妇休养、婴儿照料方式上有不同的观点，不妨先统一意见，由一个人专门和月嫂来沟通。这样才不会让月嫂左右不一，也不知道听谁的，最后造成不必要的麻烦。

如果宝宝生病，如果产妇身体不适，你需要先了解情况是否是月嫂工作失误而致。因为月嫂并非全能，请月嫂并非给宝宝和产妇买了保险，所以在确定原因之前一定不能把责任全推到月嫂身上。

还有就是月嫂提供的是24小时服务，就要月嫂24小时工作？这点我觉得大家一定不要误解了，事实上大家应该相互理解，如果月嫂连休息的时间都没有，又怎么能更好的照顾你和宝宝呢？月嫂有其工作职责，每一项都应双方认可的前提下在合同中作约定，家庭不应抱雇主的心态随意下达任务。护理婴儿和产妇有很多细碎活儿，不要打乱她正常的工作计划。

3. Reaching a Consensus

Each family member has their own opinions and expectations regarding the confinement nanny, and sometimes these opinions conflict, which inadvertently puts a lot of pressure on the nanny. If family members have different views on the mother's recovery and infant care methods, it's best to reach a consensus first and have one person communicate with the nanny. This will prevent the nanny from being confused about whose instructions to follow, ultimately avoiding unnecessary problems.

4. The Confinement Nanny is Not Omnipotent

If the baby is sick or the mother is unwell, you need to understand whether the situation is due to a mistake on the nanny's part. The nanny is not omnipotent, and hiring a nanny doesn't guarantee perfect health for the baby and mother. Therefore, before determining the cause, you shouldn't place all the blame on the nanny.

Also, while the nanny provides 24-hour service, does that mean she should work 24 hours a day? I think everyone should understand this point.  Mutual understanding is crucial. If the nanny doesn't even have time to rest, how can she better care for you and your baby? The nanny has her work responsibilities, and each task should be agreed upon by both parties and stipulated in the contract. The family shouldn't act like an employer and arbitrarily assign tasks. Caring for infants and mothers involves many detailed tasks; don't disrupt her normal work schedule.

如果月嫂护理方式和你从育儿书籍或者朋友那里了解的不一致，不妨先听听她的想法。每个人都会受限于自己的知识和经验，当出现冲突时，先听一听月嫂怎么说，如果她的方法不错，当然可以采用。如果确有疑虑，也可以请教医生。每个的生体发育都有其特殊性，应尊重适合自己的方式。

以上就是小编介绍在美国新手妈妈和月嫂相处的原则，当然这并不是说只要按照这些来做就不会出现问题，这些原则，能一定程度上减少我们和月嫂之间的矛盾，坐月子，最重要的就是开开心心，大家只要多为对方着想，事事都换个角度来看待，一切都变得很容易了。好了，如果再有关于月嫂方面的疑问，都可以与我们的客服咨询哦。

If the nanny's childcare methods differ from what you've learned from parenting books or friends, it's a good idea to listen to her perspective first. Everyone is limited by their own knowledge and experience. When conflicts arise, listen to what the nanny has to say. If her methods are good, you can certainly adopt them. If you still have doubts, you can consult a doctor. Every baby's development is unique, and you should respect the methods that work best for your child.

The above are the principles for new mothers and nannies to get along in the United States. Of course, this doesn't mean that following these principles will prevent all problems. These principles can, to some extent, reduce conflicts between you and your nanny. The most important thing during the postpartum period is to be happy. If everyone considers each other's feelings and looks at things from a different perspective, everything becomes much easier. If you have any further questions about nannies, please feel free to contact our customer service.